Process to the Marriage Blessing

We naturally desire happiness and authentic love within our families. We call that pursuit of a loving family the Three Great Blessings (Genesis 1:28), which is the human pursuit to (1) mature our character, (2) create a family, and (3) creatively impact the world. 

But somewhere along the way we lost sight of what the family was originally made for. 

If we look at history, we see that the cause of this confusion can be identified as the misuse of love. 

The very first misuse of love in human history can be traced back to the mistake of Adam and Eve. They were God’s first hope of creating the family that God so desired. However, they deviated from God’s original plan and, as a result, they were not able to fully mature their character (1). 

God’s next attempt was for his son, Jesus Christ, to come to this world and create the loving family that God envisioned. Jesus was God’s first completely mature person in all of history; finally, someone understood God’s heart of love. However, something went wrong; the people did not believe in Jesus and instead of trusting him, they murdered him. What would have happened if Jesus was believed in and not murdered? Well, he would have married and created a family (2). That family would have been God’s second hope for creating the first original family. 

Finally, God has attempted a third time to create a family that God originally intended. Sun Myung Moon received this calling from God to create God’s original family. Sun Myung Moon matured his character at a young age (1), got married and created a family (2), and has spent his entire life working for world peace (3). Since 1960, Rev. Sun Myung Moon and his wife Dr. Hak Ja Han Moon have helped millions of families across the globe create their own original family that God intended through the Holy Marriage Blessing Ceremony.

The Holy Marriage Blessing is the path to recreate the original marriages that God intended. These original couples are called Blessed Couples.

The process to become a Blessed Couple consists of five steps. Read about each of the five steps below to learn more. Please contact your local pastor if you have any questions. 


1. The Holy Wine Ceremony

As a result of the misuse of love throughout history, people have been separated from the original love of God, and a tradition of false love has been inherited from generation to generation. Through the Holy Wine Ceremony, we transition spiritually from the tradition of false love to that of God’s original love.

As Jesus offered bread and wine, saying, “This is my body and blood,” the Holy Wine represents God’s original lineage that was intended from the beginning.

 2. The Holy Marriage Blessing Ceremony

The Holy Marriage Blessing Ceremony is conducted by Rev. and Mrs. Sun Myung Moon in their capacity as True Parents, or by an officiating couple representing them. The officiators cleanse the couple spiritually by sprinkling them with Holy Water, which signifies rebirth into God’s lineage, leaving past mistakes behind. The couple pledges to fulfill God’s ideal of creation, to establish a loving family, to maintain fidelity in marriage, and to raise their children to remain pure until marriage. True Parents then proclaim the completion of the Marriage Blessing Ceremony in front of God.

 3. The Chastening Ceremony

The misuse of love throughout history has resulted in the mistrust and resentment between men and women that we see today. The Chastening Ceremony provides an opportunity to restore any personal sexual past, as well as the historical relationship between men and women. This is a symbolic ceremony in which each partner strikes the other three times on the buttock area to reverse the historical sexual immorality and the abuse of our bodies. Completing this ceremony opens the door to our God’s forgiveness and grace, and is conducted shortly after the Marriage Blessing Ceremony as the foundation for the next step.

4. The Forty-Day Holy Separation Period

The number forty is a biblical representation for the separation from sin. Through the Forty-Day Holy Separation Period, the couple abstains from sexual intimacy during the forty days after the Marriage Blessing Ceremony in order to separate the couple from the history of self-centered love, and become a Blessed Couple of true love. For married couples who are renewing their marriage through the Marriage Blessing, this period offers them an opportunity to restart their conjugal relationship with God at the center.

5. Three-Day Ceremony of Renewal

The Three-Day Ceremony of Renewal is the final ceremony to begin your journey as a Blessed Couple.

Through this ceremony, the couple will begin their conjugal life by reversing what was lost through the misuse of love throughout history. This ceremony invites God’s presence into the intimate sexual relationship with prayer and sincerity. Through symbolic ceremonial steps, each partner gives spiritual rebirth to their spouse as an original man and woman. With God’s blessing and presence, your conjugal life can develop into one of total freedom in which you can love each other in joyful spiritual and physical oneness.

You can obtain the detailed instructions for this ceremony from your pastor during the Forty-Day Holy Separation Period.


Cliff & Tiff , pastors in Atlanta, share their story.